The Main Myths About Polyamory

First, let's explain what polyamory is. Suddenly you thought it was some kind of skin disease or Mediterranean seaweed. In fact, polyamory is a system of relations between a man and a woman, in which romantic connections with other people are allowed with the mutual consent of partners. Don’t confuse it with polygamy, which essentially means you have many wives or husbands. And of course, polyamory is different from ordinary cheating because in the latter there is no agreement between partners, and a love affair with an outsider is carefully concealed.

Greater chance of contracting HIV

As early as the 1970s, an explosion of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) spread in the world, and in the 1980s this led to horrendous statistics. Even then, researchers found that the risk of contracting AIDS is higher among those who have many sexual partners. Nevertheless, since that time much has changed and the degree of public awareness, as well as medical methods of fighting the disease, have led to its partial containment. But the love of people to have several sexual partners has just remained the same. This is even more interesting statistics, indicating that polyamory has lower rates of infection with STIs than cheating each other's monogamy. This is due to the fact that polyamory audience is well aware of the risk of infection, and therefore is more likely to visit a doctor regularly for preventive purposes.

Dissatisfaction with relationships

It is another common misconception about polyamory pairs. It seems to many that since partners need relationships with other people, it means that they are not completely satisfied with each other. In fact, the degree of satisfaction in the relationship depends on your expectations and how much you live with a partner with them. Simply put, if you receive in your relationship that portion of freedom that you need, then you will feel accordingly. For example, if a person is one-man by nature, then he or she does not need to have any connection on the side to be happier in a relationship. So it is with polyamory. Their loyalty to new romances is not a sign of dissatisfaction with the main partner, but rather an integral part of the conditional family code, which is built on the moral beliefs of its participants.

Polyamorous relationships have a bad effect on children

This myth is also quite common among opponents of polyamory relations. It does not mean that polyamory is the ideal environment for the upbringing of children. But the likelihood that children will be unhappy in ordinary families is not at all worse than in a similar situation for polyamory. In any couple, there are common problems. In this sense, neither polyamory nor monogamy couples are insured against family difficulties, which can harm relations. For example, the probability that a child will live in an incomplete family with one of the parents in a monogamous couple is not lower, or even higher, than in a polyamorous couple. And in general, according to statistics, people in polyamory relations feel happier, and so, potentially more comfortable conditions will be created for their children.

So, the moral of this article is obvious: do not believe rumors and myths. If you constantly come across a common judgment about some new or relatively new phenomenon, criticize this judgment. If this phenomenon is expressed as an idea, try to communicate directly with the bearers of this idea. If you really want to know the truth, of course.